Stress on a Vacation

Many of you out there take vacations from time to time, but how many actually leave the stress at home? Stress is the number one reason why tensions rise and attitudes flair. As you get older, you have a sense of managing stress differently. As teenagers, the stress may come from school, relationships, or home. Many teenagers use the rolling of the eyes, attitude, and defiance as the way to retaliate… and ends up showing everyone their stress and henceforth stresses others.

As adults, stress affects in different ways. There could be something going on in the workplace or at home or at other activities the adult is in. The level of stress can be from making it day to day on a paycheck  to issues going on with relationships. In any case, the stress is still there and yes… it will stress others around you.

So why not take a vacation? Go on a vacation but make sure everything is taken care of. When you go on vacation, have that set agenda but do not stick by it. Use the following agenda:

1. Don’t worry.

2. Don’t worry.

3. Don’t worry.

4. When all else fails… read 1 through 3.

See the pattern here? Basically, relax! You only live a day at a time. There is no reason to worry. Worry causes stress and causes you to not be able to focus on the good things in life. Regardless of age, stress management is going to be the key.

 

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Horse of a Different Color

Ever been horseback riding? Before you get ready to go riding, you choose the horse you like. It could be the Black Beauty or a pretty brown and white horse. The horse is massive and you feel confident that the horse is going to safely get you where you are going. You jump on the back of the steed and start your journey on trails in the woods. Suddenly, something spooks the horse and causes the horse to get rowdy. You are then in for one heck of a ride.

Life is very much like riding a horse. You may pick out that perfect stallion and take off on that ride through the trails of life. You will end up on a trail where it leads to trouble and that steed will get scared, but with your guidance can overcome the trouble. Your life is the horse. God is your passenger. When you go down those trails in life, God has the reigns. While you may end up getting scared along the way, let God direct your path. For when He guides you, all dangers you encounter will be easy to bypass with Him in control.

Remember… God is constant and merciful. You are just a horse of a different color.

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My Hero

My Hero is defined as a Man of extreme magnitude. My Hero is defined as the Person that knows me inside and out. My Hero is Jesus Christ. While I was yet a sinner, He died for me. He knows my mistakes that I have made and the ones I am going to make in the future. He knows every thought that I have and every decision that I make. He is within my heart and one day I shall kneel before Him in Heaven. For those who do not know this Hero… feel free to contact me. I can tell you that He is merciful and gives grace even when we do not feel we deserve it. Many have a misconception that Jesus is wrathful. Many have a misunderstanding that having Jesus in your heart means you become completely perfect. This is NOT the case. Jesus cleanses your heart and guides you down your path in life. This doesn’t make you where everything works perfectly in your life.

I have had lots of sin in my life. My decisions in life have sometimes been poor. Although many may read this and call me a hypocrite… feel free to cast that stone for you are not without sin. Christ is in my heart and I will enter the gates of Heaven one day. I can only pray that I will see each and every one of you there.

 

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Friends Don’t Let Friends Be Stupid

We all have done stupid things in our life. From stealing to lying to doing illegal activity… there are a number of things we have done and not gotten caught doing. However, there are select people that get caught doing stupid stuff and pay the penalty for it. We all have gotten in trouble from our parents for lying and stealing. Nobody that reads this can say that they haven’t. It is in our sinful nature to do wrong.

Then there are those people that we consider our “friends” and that we think are our “friends” but in hindsight… they are negative influence. Due to popularity or school activities they are involved with, it tends to bring people like this together and ends up turning into tragedy. The “cool” thing to do ends up costing them in the long run. Instead of understanding the dangers and the consequences of being with the “friend”, they continue to hang with each other until one or both of them end up in trouble. However, if just one of them had used common sense… they wouldn’t have gotten in trouble to begin with.

Let’s shed a spotlight here on a situation… Alice and James go to the same school. They end up hanging out with each other throughout the school year. Both of them are involved in school activities together and end up becoming “friends”. As the year goes by, the friendship continues and they both start thinking about rebellious things they can do together. From hiding emotional connection from friends, to sexual acts, to stealing, to drug activity… they both end up in severe trouble. Both hurt themselves academically and they end up in legal trouble. However, they still seem to think that their bond is so important to the point where they are willing to throw their whole life ahead of them away. The “ride or die” syndrome happens and the “Bonnie & Clyde” attitude becomes an obsession. Then one day, James ends up violating his probation from the legal trouble he was in. He ends up behind bars. What happens to Alice? She continues to think that the ride or die syndrome is in place. She continues to be obsessed with James because he gave her the attention that she needed. Instead of realizing that her whole life is ahead of her and a promising future can still be there, she continues to hold on. In the meantime… James has finally realized that his actions with Alice has cost him not only his own life… but also the trust of his family. James realizes that the “friendship” he had with Alice was not a friendship… but instead it was a negative acquaintance. Although Alice did not get in trouble… she will continue her own path and end up in trouble again.

Let’s think about this for a second. “Ride or Die” and “Bonnie & Clyde” syndrome only ends up in a negative way. Both lead to death. Now was Alice and James indeed meant for each other to be friends to get each other in trouble? Was Alice doing what James wanted to do because she was wanting to still be his attention? Was James only doing things with Alice because of the sexual attention that Alice was giving to James? Who knows? One thing about it… both Alice and James were raised to know the difference between right and wrong.

I am telling you this for a reason. Friends do NOT let friends get into trouble. In fact, they tackle each other before going down the wrong path. Alice and James are perfect examples of friendship violation. If they had been the friends they needed to be and not put their own selfishness in the middle of the friendship, then things may had turned out better for both of them. Instead… they both seeked out the negative attention from each other and it morphed into a dangerous relationship. Instead of tackling each other before one got into trouble, they chose to be in trouble together on a consistent basis.

So remember… choose your friends wisely. When it comes to actions of a friendship… ask yourself if it is the wise thing to do. Never give in to your friend if that friend is wanting to do something stupid and wrong. Instead, tackle them and let them see that you love them. For if you encourage dangerous activity, you are not just showing them that you are a follower… but you are showing them in the end that you truly do not care about them nor love them. Friends uplift and encourage each other… they never accept trouble as an option.

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Tales from the Crypt

Death comes around when least expected. Tragedy happens by chance or decision. The things in which we fear the most creep up on us from time to time. It seems that once our beloved has passed on, we think about what they would say if they could come back to earth and fill us in on our decisions. Many times, I think back to my grandfather. He was the closest man to God that I ever knew. His faith was strong and always had ways of expressing to me as his grandson the ideals of life. He would tell me stories about how he would get into trouble and what his father would do. There was comedy in alot but when it boiled down to it… he was telling me the story to learn a lesson from his mistakes.

Many parents out there tell their children about things that they did as a child. We tell them the stories about things that happen to us. Some are great stories and others tend to be of sorrow and hurt. It is amazing that this is continued throughout history. So indeed history repeats itself somewhat.

So teenagers and young adults… listen to the stories that your parents tell you. Learn from their mistakes of the past and grow from the great stories. For if you take what you learn from them… you can capitalize on it is make your future a brighter one.

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War With The Enemy

We hear about wars and rumors of wars. The constant battles and loss of life throughout the world tend to take an effect on society. From country to country, there are always talks about winning wars. However, each and every one of us tend to be involved in a war from time to time and each of us deserve a medal of gallantry. This war is not a war where hundreds are on the front line. This war is the one that you fight inside of your head.

We always tend to have that little voice in our head that we talk to. From making obvious decisions to having irrational decisions, we tend to still talk to ourselves. Some people may look at it as a mental issue where we talk to ourselves about situations we put our own bodies in, but truthfully… we all do it.

The Dawg has had times where the ongoing war rages inside. From business decisions to personal life, there are constant “what-if’s” and “should I’s” that come about. In either case, do not make the irrational decisions. Seek someone of a notable position such as a parent or even your pastor. Seek the advice… but before asking for advice, let them know the full truth. Do not give them half of the truth or you will be given half the advice and if you follow just half of the advice, you will halfway fail and halfway succeed.

So when you are raging war with yourself, be sure to not let the devil play the lead role. Do not let him direct your path. Do not let him give you false intelligence. Seek out correctness in everything you do. Seek ye first the kingdom of God. Pray about everything and without ceasing. Let God direct your path. If He has put you in a situation, take it as a learning experience not for others but for YOU! Only then will you see that you are not alone and He will guide you through the smoke-filled battlefield of life. In the end… you will wear that medal of honor.

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Strongest Man in the World

I totally get it now. The old saying that God isn’t going to give you more than you can handle is WRONG! God is going to give you more than you can handle because He wants you to fall on to your knees at His feet and ask Him for help.

Think about this… when you were crawling as a child, you tried several times to stand on your own. You would crawl around until you got close enough to your parents and you would take ahold of their pants leg and pull yourself up. There you would stand with help and look up and smile. The smile was returned by your parents and the look of job well done.

We are all supposed to do that with God. We are all crawling around in life with our burdens and problems on our shoulders. It continues to bear down on us and yet we feel overwhelmed with life itself. Sometimes our minds feel that suicide is the answer because we are weighed down so much and unable to move. However, if we would just look up… we would see Him standing there waiting for us to ask Him for help.

Not even the strongest man in the world can withstand the amounts of pressure of the world without looking to God for help. You see it everyday in sports. Someone scores a winning point and they immediately look up and point. That signifies that they acknowledge His presence. Imagine what would happen if everyone would look up in honor to God and ask Him for help. Can you imagine what would happen?

So no… I don’t believe God will give you only what you can handle. He is going to give you more than you can handle so you can grow with Him. Remember that the next time when life gets you completely down. All you have to do is ask for help!

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Bipolar Attitude in a Omnidirectional World

Welcome to earth…. the globe of confusion, dispair, and monotony.

Most people do not suffer from bipolar conditions, however there are those select that have disorders of this nature that live among us. There tends to be a misunderstanding though when it comes to bipolar people. They are NOT crazy. They are known for many things which include attitude and incomprehensible ways of dealing with real life issues. Most avoid situations and tend to try to put blame on others instead of owning up to their own mistakes.

According to study by the National Institude of Mental Health:

Bipolar disorder, also known as manic-depressive illness, is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels, and the ability to carry out day-to-day tasks. Symptoms of bipolar disorder are severe. They are different from the normal ups and downs that everyone goes through from time to time. Bipolar disorder symptoms can result in damaged relationships, poor job or school performance, and even suicide. But bipolar disorder can be treated, and people with this illness can lead full and productive lives.

Bipolar disorder often develops in a person’s late teens or early adult years. At least half of all cases start before age 25.1 Some people have their first symptoms during childhood, while others may develop symptoms late in life.

Bipolar disorder is not easy to spot when it starts. The symptoms may seem like separate problems, not recognized as parts of a larger problem. Some people suffer for years before they are properly diagnosed and treated. Like diabetes or heart disease, bipolar disorder is a long-term illness that must be carefully managed throughout a person’s life.

So I have been put in question as well on whether or not I know about bipolar disorder and how to cope with it. Let me explain something very clear to you… bipolar disorder affects people in different ways. To tell me that I need to “study up on bipolar disorder” and know what I am up against… I lived that life where I have seen it. So do to patronize me or tell me that I need to study up.

There are alot of medical problems out there that people become the so-called “expert” about the subject. However, different strokes for different folks. So here is my take on the whole bipolar disorder as I have lived with someone that has had this.

A bipolar person will definitely have mood swings. They will be nice to you when it comes to something that is interesting for them to get what they want. Yet if you ask them to step outside of their box and do something for you, you will get a downfall attitude that will result in an arguement if you are not careful. The bipolar person becomes angry at the world, tends to lie consistently, manipulates things to their advantage, and destroys friendships with those who are close to them. Excuses will migrate on the reason why they can’t conform to today’s society. Stealing becomes a habit. Sometimes falling into a slump to the point where they use alternative methods to cope with their disorder becomes secondhand nature to them. Instead of facing their issues head on, they avoid situations and avoid confrontation about how they can improve their own life with the disorder that they have. Sometimes they join up with others with the same problem in hopes that they will have someone else completely understand. They will play the pity game and spread maliciousness just so that other people will adhere to his/her problem.  They tend to portray to others that they are ok and can make it through life, but they hurt the very ones who are closest to them. They tend to use people for what they can get out of them. When they don’t get what they want, they tend to pitch a fit and say that their relationship with their loved ones are distant and decide to not repair relationships. Sometimes, they even resort to illegal drugs as a way out. The most dangerous part about all of it happens when they feel that they have lost everything in the world and that nobody loves them… and then they have suicidal tendences.

I am saying this right now… if you have a loved one that suffers from bipolar disorder, get them help immediately. If the person is 18 or older, state laws become effective and it becomes unmanageable until the person who has bipolar disorder recognizes their problem and asks for help. One thing about it… until the bipolar person gets mental health help… the ones who are closest to him/her will always be wrong so expect that. Until the person is on medication and stays on it, the person will be out of control.

This world is a cruel world, yet can be manageable if you choose to let God take control of your life. I truly believe that even bipolar disorder can be treated IF the person who has it seeks appropriate help. The question arises sometimes though on who is the victim… the person with bipolar disorder or the family? Realize that the mindset of the bipolar victim is always in different directions. You will not be able to know what is going on in the mind of the bipolar person. A person that is bipolar will never be able to understand what another bipolar person’s mind is like. It affects people differently. Understand that a bipolar person will engage people in different manners. Taking advantage of situations to better themselves is just one thing that happens.

Now I am not a medical doctor nor claim to be an expert on bipolar disorder. I am merely stating symptoms that you will find when dealing with a bipolar person. This is not to slam anyone… but it is a serious condition that effects families in different ways. If you are a person that wants to help a bipolar person, do not step forward and make the family of the bipolar person feel stupid. For you have not lived with the person and do not understand fully of what has gone on through the years. Just remember this… you will be manipulated. You will be lied to. You will be stolen from. And when you are used to the capacity, the bipolar person will retaliate on you as well. Take heed….

 

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Grenade Tossed…

Ever wonder what it would be like to be near an explosion and survive it with no damage to yourself? Think about it for a sec. Someone throws a grenade at your feet. The 5 second timer (although it may be shorter than 5 secs) ticks away and ignites the primer. The explosion sends out a force that cannot be even described. The force pushes against you and throws you for a distance. The heat is immense and you feel fragments of steel hit you in the process. However providing you are a superhero… you end up getting hurt.

Things happen in life where a grenade is thrown at your feet. You make a choice to ride it out or run. Some people ride the explosion out in hopes of repairing the damage over time. Others run from it knowing that the aftermath is not going to be pretty and those types of people survive without getting hurt.

Those who decide to ride out the explosion standby and watch as lives are damaged (to include their own) and then try to repair. However, the repair cannot be done though until the repair to yourself is complete. You will see others around you suffering and hurting from the damage, however you are not going to be able to help them for you are damaged as well. Trauma from the explosion has caused you to hurt or be in pain.

Suggestion… repair yourself first before trying to tackle helping someone else. If you think about it… those around you are hurt and they have to repair themselves before they can help you as well. Just a thought…

Have a great day!

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Be Careful of Idiots

We all have those people in our lives who we thought were the “friends” and “comrades”. We spend time doing a good job in whatever club, organization, work, or event and those people help out. Yet if you are in charge of something and it fails, expect criticism from those who claim to be friends or comrades and yet do not lift a finger to help. Sometimes things will go sour and you will be left to blame. When you are a leader, expect these types of profiles to enter and leave in your life. You are not on this earth to be liked by everyone. You are however put on this earth to do the best you can. Being a leader means that you have to take the bad with the good and learn from it.

Do not let the idiots of today hinder your success of tomorrow. For they will continue to be idiots regardless and will not change. Idiots tend to take in rumors and opinions of others about you and use those ideals against you. Sometimes they will make the mistake of hindering and slandering your good name. Do not let that get you down. For those who truly know you and know your intent in life will stand up for you.

Sometimes you will receive threats by these immature people. These threats are out of anger and they will tend to shoot their mouth off in the wrong manner. Instead of being professional about something… they will take temper and exploit themselves to make them look very stupid. Do not let your maturity level fall to their level of stupidity. For they are the ones that will look wrong in the end. Do not fall into the temptation of escalating the situation. One day they may realize who the true you is. Treat them with respect at all costs and do not fall into their level of immaturity.

With that being said… continue to do what is best for you and your soul. Stand up for what you believe. Do not fret upon those who try to bring you down… for when you do… you will bring yourself down in the end.

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