Strongest Man in the World

I totally get it now. The old saying that God isn’t going to give you more than you can handle is WRONG! God is going to give you more than you can handle because He wants you to fall on to your knees at His feet and ask Him for help.

Think about this… when you were crawling as a child, you tried several times to stand on your own. You would crawl around until you got close enough to your parents and you would take ahold of their pants leg and pull yourself up. There you would stand with help and look up and smile. The smile was returned by your parents and the look of job well done.

We are all supposed to do that with God. We are all crawling around in life with our burdens and problems on our shoulders. It continues to bear down on us and yet we feel overwhelmed with life itself. Sometimes our minds feel that suicide is the answer because we are weighed down so much and unable to move. However, if we would just look up… we would see Him standing there waiting for us to ask Him for help.

Not even the strongest man in the world can withstand the amounts of pressure of the world without looking to God for help. You see it everyday in sports. Someone scores a winning point and they immediately look up and point. That signifies that they acknowledge His presence. Imagine what would happen if everyone would look up in honor to God and ask Him for help. Can you imagine what would happen?

So no… I don’t believe God will give you only what you can handle. He is going to give you more than you can handle so you can grow with Him. Remember that the next time when life gets you completely down. All you have to do is ask for help!

Until next time…

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Bipolar Attitude in a Omnidirectional World

Welcome to earth…. the globe of confusion, dispair, and monotony.

Most people do not suffer from bipolar conditions, however there are those select that have disorders of this nature that live among us. There tends to be a misunderstanding though when it comes to bipolar people. They are NOT crazy. They are known for many things which include attitude and incomprehensible ways of dealing with real life issues. Most avoid situations and tend to try to put blame on others instead of owning up to their own mistakes.

According to study by the National Institude of Mental Health:

Bipolar disorder, also known as manic-depressive illness, is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels, and the ability to carry out day-to-day tasks. Symptoms of bipolar disorder are severe. They are different from the normal ups and downs that everyone goes through from time to time. Bipolar disorder symptoms can result in damaged relationships, poor job or school performance, and even suicide. But bipolar disorder can be treated, and people with this illness can lead full and productive lives.

Bipolar disorder often develops in a person’s late teens or early adult years. At least half of all cases start before age 25.1 Some people have their first symptoms during childhood, while others may develop symptoms late in life.

Bipolar disorder is not easy to spot when it starts. The symptoms may seem like separate problems, not recognized as parts of a larger problem. Some people suffer for years before they are properly diagnosed and treated. Like diabetes or heart disease, bipolar disorder is a long-term illness that must be carefully managed throughout a person’s life.

So I have been put in question as well on whether or not I know about bipolar disorder and how to cope with it. Let me explain something very clear to you… bipolar disorder affects people in different ways. To tell me that I need to “study up on bipolar disorder” and know what I am up against… I lived that life where I have seen it. So do to patronize me or tell me that I need to study up.

There are alot of medical problems out there that people become the so-called “expert” about the subject. However, different strokes for different folks. So here is my take on the whole bipolar disorder as I have lived with someone that has had this.

A bipolar person will definitely have mood swings. They will be nice to you when it comes to something that is interesting for them to get what they want. Yet if you ask them to step outside of their box and do something for you, you will get a downfall attitude that will result in an arguement if you are not careful. The bipolar person becomes angry at the world, tends to lie consistently, manipulates things to their advantage, and destroys friendships with those who are close to them. Excuses will migrate on the reason why they can’t conform to today’s society. Stealing becomes a habit. Sometimes falling into a slump to the point where they use alternative methods to cope with their disorder becomes secondhand nature to them. Instead of facing their issues head on, they avoid situations and avoid confrontation about how they can improve their own life with the disorder that they have. Sometimes they join up with others with the same problem in hopes that they will have someone else completely understand. They will play the pity game and spread maliciousness just so that other people will adhere to his/her problem.  They tend to portray to others that they are ok and can make it through life, but they hurt the very ones who are closest to them. They tend to use people for what they can get out of them. When they don’t get what they want, they tend to pitch a fit and say that their relationship with their loved ones are distant and decide to not repair relationships. Sometimes, they even resort to illegal drugs as a way out. The most dangerous part about all of it happens when they feel that they have lost everything in the world and that nobody loves them… and then they have suicidal tendences.

I am saying this right now… if you have a loved one that suffers from bipolar disorder, get them help immediately. If the person is 18 or older, state laws become effective and it becomes unmanageable until the person who has bipolar disorder recognizes their problem and asks for help. One thing about it… until the bipolar person gets mental health help… the ones who are closest to him/her will always be wrong so expect that. Until the person is on medication and stays on it, the person will be out of control.

This world is a cruel world, yet can be manageable if you choose to let God take control of your life. I truly believe that even bipolar disorder can be treated IF the person who has it seeks appropriate help. The question arises sometimes though on who is the victim… the person with bipolar disorder or the family? Realize that the mindset of the bipolar victim is always in different directions. You will not be able to know what is going on in the mind of the bipolar person. A person that is bipolar will never be able to understand what another bipolar person’s mind is like. It affects people differently. Understand that a bipolar person will engage people in different manners. Taking advantage of situations to better themselves is just one thing that happens.

Now I am not a medical doctor nor claim to be an expert on bipolar disorder. I am merely stating symptoms that you will find when dealing with a bipolar person. This is not to slam anyone… but it is a serious condition that effects families in different ways. If you are a person that wants to help a bipolar person, do not step forward and make the family of the bipolar person feel stupid. For you have not lived with the person and do not understand fully of what has gone on through the years. Just remember this… you will be manipulated. You will be lied to. You will be stolen from. And when you are used to the capacity, the bipolar person will retaliate on you as well. Take heed….

 

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Grenade Tossed…

Ever wonder what it would be like to be near an explosion and survive it with no damage to yourself? Think about it for a sec. Someone throws a grenade at your feet. The 5 second timer (although it may be shorter than 5 secs) ticks away and ignites the primer. The explosion sends out a force that cannot be even described. The force pushes against you and throws you for a distance. The heat is immense and you feel fragments of steel hit you in the process. However providing you are a superhero… you end up getting hurt.

Things happen in life where a grenade is thrown at your feet. You make a choice to ride it out or run. Some people ride the explosion out in hopes of repairing the damage over time. Others run from it knowing that the aftermath is not going to be pretty and those types of people survive without getting hurt.

Those who decide to ride out the explosion standby and watch as lives are damaged (to include their own) and then try to repair. However, the repair cannot be done though until the repair to yourself is complete. You will see others around you suffering and hurting from the damage, however you are not going to be able to help them for you are damaged as well. Trauma from the explosion has caused you to hurt or be in pain.

Suggestion… repair yourself first before trying to tackle helping someone else. If you think about it… those around you are hurt and they have to repair themselves before they can help you as well. Just a thought…

Have a great day!

Until next time…

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Be Careful of Idiots

We all have those people in our lives who we thought were the “friends” and “comrades”. We spend time doing a good job in whatever club, organization, work, or event and those people help out. Yet if you are in charge of something and it fails, expect criticism from those who claim to be friends or comrades and yet do not lift a finger to help. Sometimes things will go sour and you will be left to blame. When you are a leader, expect these types of profiles to enter and leave in your life. You are not on this earth to be liked by everyone. You are however put on this earth to do the best you can. Being a leader means that you have to take the bad with the good and learn from it.

Do not let the idiots of today hinder your success of tomorrow. For they will continue to be idiots regardless and will not change. Idiots tend to take in rumors and opinions of others about you and use those ideals against you. Sometimes they will make the mistake of hindering and slandering your good name. Do not let that get you down. For those who truly know you and know your intent in life will stand up for you.

Sometimes you will receive threats by these immature people. These threats are out of anger and they will tend to shoot their mouth off in the wrong manner. Instead of being professional about something… they will take temper and exploit themselves to make them look very stupid. Do not let your maturity level fall to their level of stupidity. For they are the ones that will look wrong in the end. Do not fall into the temptation of escalating the situation. One day they may realize who the true you is. Treat them with respect at all costs and do not fall into their level of immaturity.

With that being said… continue to do what is best for you and your soul. Stand up for what you believe. Do not fret upon those who try to bring you down… for when you do… you will bring yourself down in the end.

Until next time…

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ASNF and ADNF

Each of these 4 letters stand for something very dear to me. As a father, I have raised my children to the best ability that I knew. I have made my mistakes as a father and have owned up to them. I have been a damn good father and nobody will ever take that away. The fun times… the sad… the exciting times… the feared… all of these times are trendy in any family environment. From the father stepping back and taking a look at the whole picture… my kids are growing up. Do I want to let them go? No, of course not because I fear of their safety and snap decisions that they make on a whim. However, the hazard decisions that they make will be lessons that have to be learned in the long run. I do not want to see my children go through the pain that I have had in life, but it is important for their own growth.

So I leave you with this teenagers… keep in mind while parents can be “crazy” and you may tell your girlfriend/boyfriend how awful your parents are to you and not allowing you to have your freedom… know this… when all is said and done… when the dagger is firmly placed… there will be a day that you will realize that father does know best. To all of my kids out there and that means all over the world and not just my biological kids… I love you all…. even the ones who I have never met.

Remember ASNF… ADNF…

A Son Never Forgets

A Daughter Never Forgets

Love them while you can….

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Being 18 Doesn’t Make You Wise…

It is quite funny how kids will reach the age of 18 and automatically think that the world owes them something for making it to 18. All of us from time to time run into kids that have this unfortunate disability. Parenting is not the blame for this immaturity. It is the mindset of some kids that take 18 to a new level.

The immaturity of the 18 year old mind tends to destroy relationships within the family. Parents end up on a dead end road and tend to not be able to prove to the kid that what he/she is doing is wrong. So here is a scenario for you on how a situation can go from normal to worse in just a few months.

John was a great kid. He was active in his local school and was doing well. He was active in extra activities at school. However, the  people he chose to hang out with were the wrong crowd. Constantly bringing other people down, he took the opportunity to learn bad traits from others. Some kids he hung out with had bad home life or had ambitions to do wrong all the time. Yet he kept those friends secret. He never once invited them to meet his parents. He knew what he was doing was wrong… but at the same time it was fun. This started a downward spiral of defeat.

Later on, John decided to start hanging out with a female friend a little more than usual. This friend was the average person in school but had their own faults as well. While going off to the store, they both got in trouble by vandalizing an area of the store. Both were arrested and taken to jail. While both sets of parents were livid about the situation, the parents of each complained saying that their child was not the one at fault. Yet the irony about it is that both kids knew what they were doing was wrong.

So John’s parents basically locked him down even though he is 18. John constantly has attitude towards them because of the decisions of the parents. Yet he protects the very one who he got into trouble with. He claims to love the female and decides to continue contact with the person against the will of his father. John makes claims that the girl knows him, looks after him, listens to him, and protects him. However, they both continue to rebel against his family. Trust is severely broken between John and his father. John wants to have that relationship back with his father, yet he also wants to continue living the way he is. Granted that John is 18… he isn’t being wise about the situation. He continue to lie and deceive his parents in every way possible. He has even lied so much that he believes himself. The young female he is friends with decides to jump on the bandwagon and make comments on how his father is being a hypocrite… yet she fails to realize that she herself fills the role of a hypocrite very well. Telling people that she is a good influence. Going against the requests of John’s family. Continuing acts of aggression through hatred, Facebook posts, pictures, and discussion with John only increases the stress between John and his parents. Yet the situation continues to get worse throughout time.

So how do you correct these acts of nature of a 18 year old who isn’t thinking wisely? How do you deal with a person that actively is out of control and doesn’t know how to take control of his own life? How do you continue to provide support and love to a person who destroys everything by lying and deceit? How do you deal with a person that cannot make proper decisions on his own when he was clearly taught right from wrong?

You don’t. You put them out on their own and let them learn from their own mistakes. The story of the prodigal son is a perfect example of this scenario. The tough love that a parent sometimes has to do is not to destroy the child… but to build them up and force them to be responsible. Responsibility, dignity, tact, integrity, and wisdom are just a few things that this 18 year old out of control John will have to learn.

To the female friend who thinks she knows him better… be careful with your actions. For you do not know him better than his own parents do. For if he will lie to his parents, he will lie to you. He will deceive you just as he deceived his parents. He will steal from you just as he stole from them. When there is a pattern of defeat, the pattern will continue until John decides enough is enough. Unfortunately, that may take a lot of heartache and heartbreak. The grass may be greener on your side… but understand one thing… this grass doesn’t take manure to make it green.

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That Precious Resource We Use

We take this for granted everyday. Every time we are rushed… or we plan ahead… we take it for granted because it is always there. From every aspect of our lives, we are constantly looking at what we can do and how long it will take. What time we have to be and where… how long will the situation take… how much more before the next task… these are questions that we ask ourselves each day.

That valuable resource is TIME! We are always subjecting ourselves to a limited timeframe on when and how we get things done in life. Simple as this… take your time! Make sure you are able to grasp every ounce of knowledge from the time you have. For when you do that, you will in the long run be more successful in life. Do not let time speed you up. Take everything in and absorb the experiences. For when you do that, you will be able to rationally make the decisions for your future and be confident that the decisions you make are valuable and detrimental to your success in life.

Time is of the essence… but knowledge is of the experienced!

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Diversity and Strength… Take Wings and Fly!

So what if you could spread your wings? So you take on areas of life in which you have never dreamed! Perhaps you are scared of where the winds may lead you. Perhaps you are around people who you feel hold you back. Maybe you are in a slough of your life and you aren’t sure how to get out of it. So sit back and think. Ponder on the essence of success and think about where you need to start working.

Most people say “Eh what does the Dawg know about life?” Well I speak on experiences here and can tell you that self-analysis and guidance from God are beginning steps to take. As I have walked through my life, I have found good friends and bad associates. When I would just go off on my own and do whatever made me happy at the time… it was with bad influences and it cost me in the long run. Because I didn’t follow my heart and my instinct between right and wrong. When I sit back and think about it… I made some stupid choices, BUT the diversity of life has taught me to suck it up, learn from it, and move on. Sometimes it takes major heartache to learn valuable lessons. Sometimes you will lose friends over making the right choices. Sometimes you will make better friends as well. However, do NOT let someone else influence you on YOUR decisions. Only you know what is best for you. This takes massive amounts of strength within the soul to reach out and tackle difficult decisions in life.

So as my friends of Unbreakable Bloodline say… Take wings and fly away! For when you fly… your destiny is based upon the winds that you are upon. With guidance from God, your flight will be true and just.

Shout out to Chief H, Blackout Basko, O’She, Dusty, Ryan, and Jay! Awesome job on your first music video! For those who do not know, Unbreakable Bloodline is an awesome diverse band in Southwest Georgia. Go check them out at Http://www.unbreakablebloodline.com.

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Full Count and Stepping Up to the Plate

Many times you may feel that you are at your wits end with a situation in life. It is full count… 2 strikes and 3 balls… bases loaded. You have tried all you can do. You have done everything that you were supposed to do. You have been praying faithfully. You do everything you know how to make sure that your life was on lock and keeping God in the center of your life. You may be stressed beyond extreme. The sweat and blood keeps dripping but you hold the tears in because you don’t want people to see you break. It is beyond limits and you are disgusted with the way nobody is paying attention to see things in the open. Well not to burst anyone’s bubble here… but it has been proven that things like that happen. So what do you do?

When you are at your breaking point… and nobody listens or even seems to care… you need to eliminate yourself from the equation and press onward. Do not lose your temper for when you do, your emotions travel and you begin a downward spiral to destruction. Sometimes it sucks that no matter how much you try to be nice and considerate that people just don’t get it. So sometimes you may feel that you need to be direct. Do so with respect… but get your point across. Are you going to let yourself be controlled by emotions that build up because some people do not do anything but criticize your wrongdoings? Remember… people have faults of their own. Perhaps they need to be put in check on their own problems an realize that everyone has a glass house. The main thing in all of this is that do not let them have that victory of pressing you to the limits. If something is aggitating you or people tend to look on your faults instead of putting themselves in check mode… do not allow yourself to break. Take a step back. Go for a walk. Breathe. For when you don’t… you will end up saying things that you wish you could take back. Expressing yourself and what is bothering you is one thing. When you get to that breaking point… you will find yourself lashing out instead of fixing the problem.

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Revolution… Resolution… Recovery… Revelation… Adaptation

As I sit here and wonder what is in store for this blog today, I couldn’t help but think about the term “Revolution” and how it plays such a strong role in our lives from time to time. We tend to move through our lives taking different paths and different sets of advice and making our own decisions. Sometimes those decisions are very difficult and cost us in the end. When the time comes and we are faced with the repercussions of our wrong decisions in life, we must look for a way to analyze the situation and bring forth a way to resolve and move forward. We may not always understand the situation, but if it is something that we did on our own.. we must claim it as our mistake and seek out the revolution.

So how do you have a revolution in your life? First off, revolution means “a sudden, complete or marked change in something”.  In order for you to have the revolution in your life, you must prepare yourself in steps to make your life progress forward. Resolution of the situation is the first step in the process. Regardless of the situation you are exposed in, resolution is the first step in healing. Resolving a situation means that you must take that ownership and make things right with those who you have wronged. Understand that sometimes it will be difficult and the person may or may not be receptive to your apology. Understand that pain is involved in alot of situations. Some people may not understand the term of forgiveness. This forgiveness that you may expect immediately may take time before you will feel and understand it. So be prepared for a small “let-down” if the person you have hurt becomes frantic and rejects your apology right at the beginning. It is a natural reaction in some cases. But by apologizing, you take ownership of your wrongdoing and begin the steps of recovery.

The recovery process is probably known as a continual day-by-day challenge that will tempt you at every corner of your life. Just because you feel remorse on what you have done and have sought out forgiveness, it doesn’t mean that the temptations will go away for you to do it again. You must stand your ground and remember what happened to you prior to your steps of resolution. Know that the recovery process is something that your family can help you with. Always remind yourself in the morning and before you go to bed that with God, the revolution will be completed.

 

 

 

 

 

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