Let me give you a thought to ponder on for awhile. You are on a cliff and you are looking down into the abyss of darkness of a gorge. You wonder what is down there and the thrill of climbing down to see what neat relics or coin that has been tossed from the location of where you stand. Throughout the years, the edge of the cliff becomes more unstable because of the weather as well as the many other people who have stood where you are wondering the same exact thing. Regardless of the danger, you still creep closer to the edge to peek down into the bottom just to grasp a glimpse of some amazement or treasure to be retrieved. Without concern for your safety, you get closer and closer and then when you start falling… you only pray that you hit soft ground. In the end, you find yourself hurt and in a recovery process that will be following you the rest of the days of your life.
How is your life? Let’s be honest here. Are you truly happy? If you aren’t, then you are probably creeping towards the edge of the cliff wondering what is down in the next canyon of your life. There may be circumstances that are pushing you closer to the edge to help you make the plunge. You may have someone constantly pushing you by irritation, malice, or even direct discontent and making you feel that you are not worthy of their presence. They may indirectly avoid you because they take for granted that you will “always be there” and take care of things without giving you the praise and love in which you deserve. Perhaps you have done something wrong and the more you try to do the right thing; the more the past comes up from the people pushing you over the edge. So you think to yourself… why not take the plunge if that is what everyone else wants. You may want those people to stop pushing the past on you… but no matter what, the trust is blown and you feel that it is non-repairable no matter what happens. When you break the trust with a loved one, they are hesitant about trusting again. If it is something that is detrimental, they may never trust you again ever regardless whether or not they “forgive” you. Just know this, it isn’t about whether or not they forgive you… it is whether or not you feel worthy enough to even try again.
For those who are the ones pushing one towards the edge… or for those who are “forgiving”; if you indeed forgive… then do so without any regards to the situation in which the loyalty or trust was broken. If you truly forgive, then you let it go. You don’t play private investigator or snooper. If you truly forgive the person, then you communicate with that person more and more and make the relationship stronger than ever. Yes, there is pain in doing this. However, if you make it through the pain together; then it will work in the end. If you go on a spree of vengeance without communicating with the person that hurt you, then you are helping the destruction process in a fast countdown.
In this life, there are no do-overs. So make sure whatever decision you make in life… make sure you have a safety net below in case you are pushed overboard. If you are the pusher, then back up and help your fellow man up so that you do not force them overboard into a pit of unknown.
Until next time…



